Its great having Dave back from Australia. No one understands Mum better than me and Dave so to speak to him about issues has been great. He had a great holiday, and was shattered when i met up with him. Loved the Cork hat and the boomerang though!!
Mum has been causing us yet more concerns lately. Last week she threw one of her carers out of her house. She said the carer, while speaking about Dave being in Australia, asked mum which son she was closer to. When asked the carer claimed all she said was it was good mum was so close to her sons. I spoke to mum about it and she was adamant she was asked that question and it was nothing to do with the carer. I spoke to the care manager about it, and discussed a few issues. We then met at mums house, but i decided not to offer any opinion but to be there as support only. The matter was resolved, where the carer, who is from the Philippines, is returning home at the end of the year, so she wont visit my mum again. This might complicate things if they are short staffed!
That night i phoned Kerry from the Care Company to discuss all that had happened. I told her that i didn't believe my mums version of events but i had to be seen to be supporting her as if she felt she didn't have my full support we would be in trouble. She agreed with me but did point out a repeat of this would put them in a tricky position. She raised some more concerns about mum, mainly that she felt the brain damage was more severe than first thought. What i perceived to be as laziness when it comes to house work etc, may now be a lack of understanding on mums part to carry out these functions.
Mum is also eager to come of the anti-depressants. In one week she went to the doctor and got her dosage reduced, then told the grief councillors she didn't think she needed another visit. I don't know if this is right, but will keep a close eye on things to see how she is.
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